Wednesday, July 1, 2009

A Wake Up Call- Part 2

I wrote last week about how the show on Oprah last week touched me. It's truly a story that I have thought about countless times since watching it and I could NOT get Brenda Slaby (the mother in the story) out of my mind. Every time she crossed my mind I thought about how brave she was to tell her story and what a blessing her sharing her tragedy was to me and so many others.

I considered leaving her a comment on the Oprah website but was fearful she might not read them all given the volume of comments and the ugliness of many of those comments. I kept thinking how much I wanted to let her know what it meant to me- and could not get it out of my mind.

So the other morning after writing my blog about her story, I was on Facebook and decided to look for her. I put in her name and immediately pulled up her profile and picture. I was thrilled and immediately sent her a short message. I basically just told her thank you for sharing her story, told her how much it touched and changed me, mentioned I had blogged about it, and told her I was praying for her and her family. I just wanted her to know that she was making a difference. I clicked send and hoped and prayed that she would read it.

Well read it she did and then she responded. Her message said:


Your blog was amazing. I may never understand why this happened to me, but I want to honor Cecilia's memory by doing positive things in her memory. I appreciate your comments. I hope that you will always remember my baby girl and remind young mothers you know how short life can be. is a great web site for parents to go to when looking for ideas to keep their kids safe in and around cars.


I immediately went to and it is a fabulous site full of information, stories, and links. On the site there was a link to a fabulous story in the Washington Post by Gene Weingarten.

Fatal Distraction

Please take a minute to read this truly wonderful article. It is touching and heart breaking and sheds light on the many complicated and misunderstood reasons these unthinkable deaths continue to happen.


  1. Shannon, you are such a blessing. Really. Truly.

  2. Wow, that is amazing. I am so glad that she wrote you back. And I am glad that you shared with all of us.

    God Bless,

  3. Heart wrenching, absolutely one of thee most awful things to have to live with. Thank you for sharing and enlightening your readers! There but for the grace of God go I...

  4. There But For The Grace of God Go I.

  5. We had another tragedy like this about a week or so ago here in Lexington. My heart just sinks everytime I hear of another one.

    One morning when Kat was about 7, I always dropped her at school on my way to work. School was like a 3-4 minute drive from the house then another 10-12 miles to work. I put her in the backseat and started out. As usual, my mind started clicking thru all the things I needed to accomplish that day and I was about halfway to work (long past the school) when Kat (bless her heart) said...Mom what about school? Luckily she was old enough to speak up and bring me back to the present. It always unnerved me thinking about what could have happened had she been younger and just fallen asleep.

    So I do see how "some" of these tragedies can happen. Unfortunately, Lexington has seen some that were totally uncalled for. Mothers who wanted to do some shopping and didnt want to bother with the kids. One who left all 3 in the car "on purpose" and only 1 survived.

    I know they are coming up with car seats that have alarms attached to them to prevent this from happening. Also, a quick way to remind yourself, is just leave your purse, briefcase, etc., in the backseat with the baby.