Monday, June 29, 2009
Saturday, June 27, 2009
The show was titled "Overwhelmed Moms" and her guest was Brenda Slaby. Brenda was a wife, mother of two beautiful girls, and an assistant principal at a middle school. She was busy busy busy and always on the go. She tried hard to be "Supermom", had perfectionist tendencies, and spent most of her time and energy taking care of and seeing to the needs of others.
One day in August of 2007 she left home early on morning with lots on of her mind because it was the first day back for teachers at her school. Her husband had a dentist appointment and asked her to take their youngest daughter, 2 year old Cecilia, to daycare to save him some time. She loaded sleeping Cecilia into the backseat and headed to daycare. As she pulled up- she realized it was too early to drop her daughter off, so she decided to take care of another errand first- and stopped at a donut shop to pick up donuts for her teachers.
Once she picked up the donuts, with her mind racing ahead to all of the millions of things she needed to accomplish that day, she headed to work- forgetting about her sleeping daughter in the backseat. She proceeded to arrive at school, unload her things, and went to work. Eight hours later someone discovered the toddler in the parking lot and teachers frantically called 911 before attempting CPR. But it was too late for Cecilia.
After watching this story- I went to Oprah's website and read some of the many comments people had left after it aired. I think people have one of two very strong reactions to hearing this story. They are either outraged and think "What a horrible woman! How could a mother forget her child?" or they are sympathetic and think "Oh my goodness, bless her heart. What a horrible accident!". I fall into the second group.
As I watched Brenda tell her story I cried. I cried because I could see how heartbroken she was. I cried for the pain and stigma she will live with for the rest of her life. I cried for her sweet baby who died a horrid and awful death. I cried for her and for her husband who feel such guilt. I cried because I realized how easily our life's distractions can cause us to make a tragic error. I cried because sadly I could see how this happened.
Watching her story made me think of all of the times that I have walked through my daily life, without really being present in the moment but more engaged in what was on my schedule next. It made me think of how often I am doing one thing- but am completely and totally focused on another. It made me think of all the times that I've been trying to do several things at once and ruined one of those things. It made me think of all of the times that I've been somewhere, doing something, but got finished and didn't even really remember anything about it- because I was so focused on thinking of the next thing I had to do.
Norman Fischer (some sort of Zen expert- which is random and not something I believe in at all- but he did say a few really good things) was on the show and he talked about how overwhelmed moms today are and how we try do so many things-often running around like a chicken with our head cut off- all without asking for help. He said something that really made me think.
Though our society stresses the importance of being able to handle multiple tasks at one time, there is no such thing as multitasking. Instead, we switch from one task to another. This switching prevents us from being able to do one task with any intensity or commitment. Whatever you are doing. Do it. Do it completely. Bring your whole attention to it, Be present in everything that you do."
His words stung.
They stung because his description is ME.
And that? It makes me sad. Sad for God, sad for my family, sad for my friends, sad for me.
I'm not a believer of consequences. I believe that God places things in our path for a reason and I am thankful he gave me a wake up call through this woman's tragic story.
And now it's my job to work hard at slowing down- at enjoying the moments of my life, instead of just working to cross another thing off of my to do list. To be fully present and give my full attention to whatever I am doing. It won't be easy for me but I know the rewards will be great.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
1 pouch (1 lb 1.5 oz) Betty Crocker® chocolate chip cookie mix
1/2 cup margarine, softened
1 bottle Magic Shell chocolate topping
1 half gallon container chocolate chip-cookie dough ice cream, softened
Heat oven to 375 degrees. Spray bottom and sides of 13x9-inch pan with cooking spray. In large bowl, stir cookie mix, butter and egg until soft dough forms. On ungreased cookie sheet, make 5 cookies by dropping dough by tablespoonfuls. Bake 9 to 11 minutes or until edges are golden brown. Cool 2 minutes; remove from cookie sheet to cooling rack. Meanwhile, press remaining dough in pan, using moistened fingers (dough will be sticky). Bake 8 to 10 minutes or until set. Cool completely, about 30 minutes. Spread 1/2 of bottle of chocolate topping over baked crust. Freeze 10 to 15 minutes or until chocolate is set. Meanwhile, remove ice cream from freezer to soften. Spread softened ice cream evenly over chocolate-topped crust. Crumble 5 baked cookies; sprinkle over ice cream layer. Drizzle remaining chocolate topping over cookie crumbs. Cover; freeze 2 hours. To serve, let stand at room temperature 5 minutes before cutting. (do not try to cut out this step- or the dessert will be frozen as hard as a rock!)
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Monday, June 22, 2009
Of course as I am in the middle of writing a text, our pastor walks up and starts talking to us. Although he said nothing, I felt like a little kid who had just been busted by her dad. I stopped texting to talk to him, and then after he walked away I finished my text to Dory saying "I just got busted for texting. By the pastor."
She replied "You got busted but you still replied? LOL LOL LOL".
So today's question of the day is actually three questions:
1. Do you text?
2. How often do you text?
3. Have you ever been busted for texting when you should not have?
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Friday, June 19, 2009
manicures and pedicures
(thank goodness for GPS systems)
traveling and packing
(this is my favorite pic of me)
with my sweet friend Dory and her family.
Because she lives a MILLION miles away- our time together is precious.
Friday, June 12, 2009
(again, not a word)
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
It seems just yesterday that she was born and somehow
magically overnight she has grown into this
It just doesn't seem possible that 13 years have gone by.
I know that I never did anything to deserve such a precious daughter-
but I am so thankful God has blessed me with her.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
And if you know the sweet lady who I bought the table from- please don't tell her what I did to it. Let's just keep that our little secret. K?
Sunday, June 7, 2009
(Picture from http://english.cri.cn/index.htm)
He's keeping the weight on until July and then plans to work hard and lose it by October.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
•Wash all of our windows
•Straighten all closets
•Go to the gym (Do I even remember my login #?)
•Clean out my closet
•Straighten up garage
•Move boxes out of old school
•Get some sun (I might be confused with Casper at this point)
•Sweep and mop
I Want To:
•Refinish my new craft table (Cannot WAIT to do this!)
•Go buy Photoshop and play with it
•Watch Court TV all day long
•Make a fun display board (Seriously, how cute is this? I just need an old cabinet door......anyone have one?)
•Bake and eat something sinful (Maybe these? YUMMY!)
•Go to the movies
•Go to Hobby Lobby to buy stuff for my cute new craft table
•Get a massage
•Get a pedicure (This might border on NEED)